In vino veritas 🍷
Thank you for the lovely words. Really appreciate it! Sympathehic people like you are the true heroes without capes.
Everything you said resonated with me. This world is messed up, though we ought to be careful to let it define us. After all, we dictate our lives. I’ll continue my quest of finding a lasting, functional, loving relationship.
Wish you a splendid New Year!
Don’t let incel types cause you to shape your impression of why you’re being rejected and turn it into a reason to hate a whole gender. Some of them have shitty standards, sure, but don’t turn it into a rule about them. That leads to a downward spiral.
Absolutely, I agree. What I was trying to convey is that to me it never feels like I am enough. I know rejection is part of the game. However, it does hit hard—it affects my self-esteem. That is my problem and I need to work on that.
Still, I think you can agree there is a lot of competition going on. It’s axiomatic that there are more men on dating apps than women. That leaves me at a disadvantage. To make matters worse, these apps are designed to judge someone based on looks. I am pretty fit, though nowhere near extremely strong. Just plain average.
I don’t blame women for choosing the top percent of men on these apps (if the roles were reversed I would’ve likely done the same). Yet for someone the likes of me the only winning move is not to play.
Also, I am no misogynist. I don’t abhor women for being rejected. They don’t owe me anything. That is not to say that I don’t find the process of finding a love companion difficult.
Wish you a wonderful Happy New Year bud!
Can’t really relate, because I am only 24yo. Rant incoming;
Though I am sort of reluctant to try dating. In the past, I tried dating apps but they yielded no results. The women I matched with all ghosted me. Really did a number on my self-esteem. Who knows? Maybe I’ve got the face for radio?
And in all honesty, it feels like I’ve got to abide by ridiculous standards. The likes of being buff and tall, owning a car and house, a 6-figure salary, etc. I am still studying and trying to get my bachelor degree. All of these requirements put a ton of pressure on me. Is every woman looking for that? Of course not—that’s not what I am implying. But from my personal experience it’s certainly starting to feel that way.
Not surprised why redpill content is booming. They’re not right, but there is truth to be found in some of their statements. In the end, I do introspection to identify my flaws and improve on myself. Nevertheless, even by doing all of that it feels like it’s never enough.
I didn’t laugh either. Though I think the contradiction of “life fucking sucked back then” followed by “life was fucking awesome back then” was supposed to be funny.
It really was just a joke.
All good. Hard to tell when it’s just text.
It can still be more pleasing for us to look at a pretty girl (if that is what we prefer) without getting horny.
You do you. Certainly not shaming. Still, I do find everything is being sexualised nowadays;
Ads, thumbnails, films, music, video games—almost the entire internet. Ever tried scrolling through All on Lemmy or Reddit? Won’t take long for you to find erotica or something of the likes. YouTube and Twitch are even worse. Women creating content whilst partially showing and thousands of men throwing a bunch of money at them—or time for that matter (which gets them ad revenue). Not much different from OF if you ask me.
The problem is you can’t escape it. And it’s affecting children as well. They see all of it and think it’s normal. Take a glance at TikTok and you’ll understand.
In the end, I’d rather play a game for its story and gameplay instead of playing it for the “boobs and vags”. There is enough of that already.
I agree with you as well. Thought your comment was sane and reasonable. No clue why you were being downvoted to oblivion.
And then the bloke who says he’d rather create a female character, because he prefers to stare at her arse for hours.
Man, like, if one is that horny you’re better off climaxing to something else—if you catch my drift.
Happy holidays bud!
Love this documentary! My professor made my class watch this and I must say that all of it just clicked.
That’s for the observant. Your glass is one dimensional.
I can’t believe people fell for this and downvoted you to oblivion lmao
Either they’re playing along or they’re born in the shallow end of the gene pool.
I was only joking, though I guess Lemmys need the /s to understand.
Don’t have anything against systemd—as goes with anything—use whatever suits your needs.
Given there is no algorithmic recipe to hook you, I’d wager Lemmy is far better for everyone’s mental well-being. You’ll ultimately squander less of your time mindlessly scrolling.
Zero times. Always swiped right to increase my chance of getting matches. Didn’t use some hookup app the likes of Tinder either. Used OkCupid since I heard good stories of it at the time.
I am well aware I may be an outlier. I know other men certainly do swipe left.
Though I agree with your points. After all, we’re all thinking like troglodytes at times. We set unrealistic expectations. Think social media skewed our views of what’s realistic and what is not.