

I’m from Reddit too. I started on Lemm.ee and I made accounts at like 4 other instances. It’s extremely easy to make accounts and switch in the app you’re using (I’m on Voyager).
Feddit.org, a German server, was down earlier for Maintenace and I switched to infosec. It’s really easy. Not a commitment to apply and jump between instances.
You don’t have to wait. You could apply for a few you like the description of and try them out. If you don’t like them, don’t use them. If you like them—stau! :)
I must add: I have a friend in his 50’s who had a similar reaction that you did. So, please don’t think your perspective is invalid here. You aren’t wrong in pointing out that this line did hurt some people whom it wasn’t meant for—including yourself.
What you’ve said in explanation is very sad for me to learn. I am very sorry that you hold such pain and suffering here. That you’ve endured this. You owe me no explaining but this makes sense to me why you are bothered.
You would probably like the Tao Te Ching. If you haven’t read it before it’s fairly short. There are many translations. I think you might find strategy to use empathy offensively there.
I thank you for being vulnerable and I wish you healing and strength. You are always welcome here.