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    Do people really struggle this much to urinate? It seems crazy to not be able perform a basic bodily function like this. I honestly had no idea. Though, I do question why one of these two isn’t following basic urinal etiquette. One stall between, otherwise use a toilet, otherwise wash your hands first and then, if no one has moved, you’re allowed to ride side saddle.

    Some dude used a urinal right next to me with five urinals available, and I stared at him until I finished. He never looked at me. Come to think of it, I don’t know if he started peeing until I was done, but that seems like an edge case. His fault though.

    Edit: wow, given the quick downvotes, it looks like it’s more common than I thought here on Lemmy, and it appears I touched a nerve! Lol

    I’m going to start bringing a stopwatch into the bathroom and very obviously start it when someone sidles up to the urinal. 😆

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      Everyone look at this guy. He can piss under extreme pressure. We should all aspire to be him

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          Just because you don’t have any issues doesn’t mean other people don’t. I, myself, have a lot of anxiety when it comes to using urinals and have trouble sometimes. Why? No idea. Having to piss doesn’t override the anxiety, so you just end up feeling miserable.

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            Yeah, I just didn’t realize it was so common. Sorry, that sucks. Are you an otherwise confident and secure person?

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              Yes, other than pissing I’m pretty confident.

              No,. I have no idea why peeing in private is important to my lizard brain. It wasn’t when I was a kid.

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              It’s okay. Sorry I got snippy back at you. Funny enough, most of the time I feel as if I am very confident and secure. Naturally as people do I have my times where that slips, but I’d say 80% of the time I’m cool as a cucumber

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                No worries, I think a lot of people thought I was being an ass instead of honestly just having never thought about it. I wonder if it has something to do with growing up in a big family and playing sports and stuff. Like, I think I just became to desensitized to it. If I needed privacy to pee, I would probably wouldn’t have peed through all of high school and college lol.

                The amount of time I’ve dumped a whizzer while someone was right next to me, talking to me, or once while two other people were in a tiny bathroom at a party… at bars where there was no urinal and no door on the stall… that last one was a pretty notorious bathroom, because like I said, the stall had no door, but also the door to the bathroom itself was a pair of those swinging doors like in wild west movies. I’ll admit having to take a shit while you could still see the people at the bar was pretty awkward. One of my favorite dive bars. 🤣

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      It’s not a choice. It’s like some primal instinct or something.

      Edit: urinals don’t typically bother me but if you try to talk I’m done. Can’t do the troughs. It’s not insecurity it’s just a little privacy and peace is nice.

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        I’ve heard jokes about it, but I didn’t think it was a widespread thing. Doesn’t the need to pee outweigh the fear of… well. Whatever the fear is I guess? What exactly is the fear?

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          I feel no fear or anxiety at all at first. It just doesn’t come out if someone is next to me. The fear and anxiety comes afterwards when you’ve started taking a little bit too long. I think a lot also has to do with reduced bladder pressure as you get older or get chronic back issues.

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            Got it. Well, I’m sure it doesn’t help, but I don’t think anyone notices if someone is or isn’t making pee noise. I think that’s kind of the point of the comic, i.e., that never happens because no one is timing your piss cycle (I hope!).

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          For me, I just don’t like having my genitals out when other people are around. It’s not about whether they’re looking or not, it just feels uncomfortable being exposed. Same reason I don’t use public showers at gyms and such.

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          Doesn’t the need to pee outweigh the fear of… well. Whatever the fear is I guess? What exactly is the fear?

          Idk man, ask my subconscious

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            Dear Can’s Subconscious,

            Sorry I haven’t written to you lately. I’ve been so busy, but that’s no excuse. I hope you are well.

            I was writing to ask a question: y u no pee? U scare? Y?

            Sincerely,

            WoahWoah

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      I don’t know what age you are, but if you’re too young not to have known, some people have medical conditions that make them struggle to pee.

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        I don’t think this is medical conditions. I think it’s just people shy about urinating. I just didn’t realize how common it was.

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      Questioning is also not allowed.

      Lemmy is a silly place.

      It’s proving to be Reddit without the random intellectuals.

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      Also never had an issue with urinals. I can also talk to others while peeing. But I’m also used to be nude at the sauna. If there’s sufficient urinals available I keep at least one free but if someone stands next to me, I don’t care.

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      stopwatch

      Try it at home, too. It takes 21 seconds to pee. It’s freakishly accurate throughout the animal Kingdom. My theory on shy bladder is that our brains know how long it takes, so when we take a while to start, everything compiles and we get nervouser and nervouser as we approach that 21 second limit.

      I just use the stalls, but that’s mainly because I’m self conscious about my peeper, and I’ve seen enough cruising in the men’s room porn to be worried about Looky loos /s

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        While I’ve said no one is paying attention to you if you’re not peeing – and I think it’s largely true, I’ve never really noticed if someone doesn’t start peeing; I guess I would just assume they were stealth peeing against the side of the urinal – I have to admit I do notice those old guys that stand there for like five minutes leaking it out a spurt at a time. They seem to defy the 21 second rule.